Ideal Partner: Blog Post #5

 My ideal partner has a multitude of characteristics. I think it is important to include both physical but also personality traits as well. Physical characteristics that I see in my ideal partner are darker hair and eye color. I think my ideal partner would have been taller than me (I am 5ft 8), or at least I hope he would. Those characteristics are things that are attractive to me, but not a deal breaker by any means. Personality traits are something that mean more important to me. A guy can be the most attractive person in the world, but if he has a terrible personality, I cannot see any foreseeable future with him. 

A characteristic that is important to me is if a guy is personable. Not necessarily whether he is extroverted or introverted, but how he interacts with others. For example, if we are out for dinner at a restaurant and the waiter is busy, his reaction can make or break the relationship. Especially coming from a restaurant owner, the way people treat customer service workers’ reflects how they treat others. Also noticing how a man treats women can be very telling of how he treats you as a person. Is he respectable, nice, and has boundaries? Or does he hit on any girl or call them names behind their back? It is a weird characteristic, but having a guy with sisters, older or younger, really impacts the way he acts as a person.

I am more introverted than extroverted, as I get my energy by ‘recharging’ alone. I think it would be nice to have a partner who is more extroverted. I believe opposites attract in a way; dating an extrovert could take me out of my comfort zone to try new things. It is also a deal breaker to me if a man is able to show his emotions. I understand that some feelings are hard to show or explain, but toxic masculinity is something that I disagree with. It is important for men to talk about how they feel. This is something that builds trust and a deep connection between people. Relationships’ foundation comes from being vulnerable and connecting with one another emotionally. 

Humor is also a very important characteristic of my ideal partner. I use humor in a lot of my life. This trait is shown through my everyday interactions with friends or random videos on my for you page on TikTok. Having someone who has similar humor as me is crucial in a relationship. It defines how I go about life because I think it's necessary to see the humor and light in situations. All of these characteristics in an ideal partner reflect characteristics that I see in myself. Being personable, introverted, emotional, and funny are traits that are very meaningful to me. These characteristics define who I am and how I interact with others throughout my life. While these are very important to me, there are definitely more traits that are important when finding an ideal partner.